Premature Ejaculation – Overcome This, And Be A GREAT Lover!

Posted on April 23, 2012 by admin

It’s a surprising fact that there are just about as many men who are satisfied with sex which lasts two minutes as there are men who think this duration of intercourse means that they need to learn how to overcome premature ejaculation.

Why such a disparity in attitudes towards this most fundamental sexual attribute (duration of intercourse before ejaculation)?

The fact is, premature ejaculation is a subject mired in personal opinion, prejudice, and personal beliefs. If you believe that sex is about intimacy, and you’re a man who delights in giving his partner orgasms, enjoying ample foreplay and establishing an intimate emotional connection, then you very likely take the trouble to give your partner an orgasm before you even enter her vagina. Since a woman who’s climaxed before you enter her is probably sexually satisfied, at least to some degree, it matters less if you ejaculate within two minutes. This is what I would like to call the behavioral approach to overcoming premature ejaculation.

But if you’re a man who doesn’t enjoy foreplay, or has never been shown the need for it in good sex, then it’s very likely that you’re engaging in perfunctory kissing, caressing, another maybe even missing out completely on other delightful foreplay techniques like oral sex. You probably enter your partner quite quickly, possibly even before she’s ready, using either saliva as a lubricant or some other artificial lubricant; ironically this may make your premature ejaculation even worse, because unlubricated vaginal friction is highly stimulating; in any event, the result may be that you ejaculate within two minutes, before your partner has reached orgasm, and you are then very likely to think that overcoming PE is a most important step on the road to you becoming a better lover.

So you see immediately how perception can influence a man’s attitude to overcoming this very common sexual dysfunction. It’s not easy against such a background of individual priorities to even come up with a universal definition of premature ejaculation which covers all cases, but we can say with some certainty that the key factor in any definition of PE is that the couple is dissatisfied because the man comes too quickly. The deeper point I’m making, however, is that whilst overcoming premature ejaculation might seem like the right approach to resolving this issue, it’s also entirely possible that a simple change in sexual behavior might serve the couple just as well in overcoming this particular sexual dysfunction.

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Further Ways To Overcome Rapid Ejaculation

Posted on January 30, 2012 by admin

It’s strange that in the West we think it’s necessary to have a soulmate for ideal sex. The truth is, that any person who can enjoy orgasms can achieve sexual ecstasy. The point being that it’s not about having an ideal partner – it’s about doing the right thing with somebody who you respect and trust. So how does premature ejaculation fit into this, or rather, how does overcoming PE  fit into this?

The answer is that esoteric sexual techniques like Tantric sex can be very helpful in overcoming premature ejaculation. The object of the exercise is to achieve “brain orgasm” rather than ejaculatory orgasms. As you can imagine, this will avoid premature ejaculation completely.

So the big deal with the way we enjoy sex in the West is that men often feel they have to achieve orgasm and ejaculate to relieve sexual tension. As a result, their goal is orgasm, the big bang, which cheats both them and their partners of incredible sexual ecstasy and stimulation. Now I’m not advocating that you never ejaculate, because this can be rather bad for the prostate gland. However, if you reduce the frequency of ejaculation and increase the frequency of orgasm (yes, that’s right, they don’t have to go together!)
you can certainly become a longer lasting lover.

By not ejaculating, it’s possible for a man to overcome his tendency to premature ejaculation, and at the same time enjoy sex and last much longer in bed. So we can learn a lot by looking at Tantric techniques to extend sex since they show us some effective ways to overcome premature ejaculation.

First of all, you may notice during sex that you actually hold your breath and tighten your muscles: that’s okay if you’re trying to increase your arousal and intensify your sexual climax, but unfortunately, holding your breath is often not deliberate, and together with tension in bodily muscles of which you are not aware, it can promote an early ejaculation. So the first thing is to learn how to breathe correctly during sex…..

You must have complete control the cycle of inhalation and exhalation. Breathe slowly and steadily through your nose to relax, delay climax, and extend lovemaking, but ensure that as you do so, you inhale deeply into your abdomen. This is abdominal breathing: it’s much deeper than the shallow chest breathing which we normally use, and it ensures that you’ll be relaxed and able to last much longer in bed.

Next, you must have good muscular tone and control over the muscles in the pelvic region that are responsible for ejaculation. The main muscle is the pubococcygeus muscle, otherwise known as the PC muscle, which extends between the genitals and the anus. This is the muscle responsible for the emission and ejaculation of semen during the sexual act.

If it’s in tone, and fit, tightening it will increase sexual arousal if you are near the point of ejaculation. But before you reach that point, tightening the muscle actually causes your arousal to reduce because it restricts blood flow to the penis.

To help in overcoming premature ejaculation it’s also useful to know a few acupressure points in the pelvic region. One of these is the perineum point, halfway between the anus and the base of the scrotum. Massaging it during foreplay can increase sexual tension and pressing on the point can increase the quality of orgasm control for men. In fact, this is a very effective way of overcoming premature ejaculation. His partner, or the man himself, can press on the perineum point for a few seconds with a couple of fingers until the urge to ejaculate decreases.

It’s also possible to use a visualisation to imcrease love and intimacy: imagine glowing orbs of loving energy starting at this spot in both partners and expanding until they are completely absorbed in a field of loving energy.

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Overcoming Premature Ejaculation

Posted on January 28, 2012 by admin

Premature ejaculation is when orgasm and ejaculation occur before the desired time. The common approach to premature ejaculation has been CBT and behavioral therapy.

Anesthetic cream,  lidocaine-prilocaine cream 5% was studied to see how useful it was in overcoming premature ejaculation. Forty men were randomized into four groups of 10 each. Group 1 applied lidocaine-prilocaine cream 5% for 20 minutes, group 2 for 30 minutes, and group 3 for 45 minutes before sexual contact, and all men used a condom over the cream. Men in the fourth group used a base cream as placebo.

In group 1, the time between penetration and ejaculation increased to 6.71 ± 2.54 min without any adverse consequences; 4 men from group 2 increased the time between penetration and ejaculation up to 8.70 ± 1.70 min,  but six men in this group and all the men in group 3 lost their erections because of numbness.

The men with placebo cream showed no change in lovemaking time.

Clearly, lidocaine-prilocaine cream 5% can overcome premature ejaculation to some degree, and it seems that twenty minutes’ time before sexual contact is the optimum length of time to have it on the penis.

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How to Overcome Premature Ejaculation Immediately

Posted on January 27, 2012 by admin

As you already know, premature ejaculation is one of the most common sexual problems that men have to face. And of course it’s particularly common for young men who haven’t had much sexual experience, although it’s also a problem for men who have entered a new relationship and are with a new sexual partner.

Generally speaking, experience and maturity will tend to lessen the effects of premature ejaculation, so that the time for which a man can make love extends with his sexual experience. In these cases, overcoming premature ejaculation is a matter of being patient.

Nonetheless, there are plenty of men around who find, even with time and experience under their belt, that they cannot control their ejaculation – or perhaps it would be more accurate to say that they choose not to control their ejaculation – and to these men, premature ejaculation can become a problem.

Even so, there are plenty of ways to overcome premature ejaculation, some of them quite straightforward, consisting of methods that you can use at home to extend the time for which you can make love.

Treatments recommended by sex therapist generally involve exercises which you can practice either on your own or with a partner.

How To Overcome PE

Try the following tips:
As you approach your orgasm, take a deep breath and slowly breathe out through the mouth. This may slow down your ejaculation reflex.

If this doesn’t work for you, squeeze the tip of your penis between the frenulum and the coronal rim around the glans for between 10 and 20 seconds just before you reach the point of orgasm. You may find that your erection dissipates slightly, but so should your urge to ejaculate, and when you resume masturbating or lovemaking, you should find that you have overcome the urge to ejaculate.

The old chestnut about thinking of something boring to distract yourself is simply that – an old chestnut. It doesn’t work; in fact, it’s completely counter-productive, because
to develop better control of your ejaculation, and to enjoy sex to the full, you need to have your whole attention on what you are doing. Only by having your attention on how aroused you are, and the signals your body is giving you about your imminent ejaculation, will you have enough information to overcome the urge to ejaculate.

And finally, during foreplay or sexual intercourse, if you stop and start sexual activity or sexual stimulation, this will extend the time before you need to reach orgasm and ejaculate, and it will allow you to tolerate higher levels of arousal without coming in the future.

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